Friday, September 14, 2012

LOVEspiration: Humbled By True Love

This year marked my parents' 26th wedding anniversary, and spending the weekend with them inspired me to share some of their secrets to making it last. Note: almost 75% of their friends (and my family members) have been divorced or are currently separated from their spouse.

  • Find someone who brings out the best in you. My dad cancels out my mom's timid nature and my mom's tough spirit pushes my dad to be a fighter.
  • Make smart decisions together. The key to a healthy relationship is to make smart decisions. My parents hardly ever make decisions without consulting one another.
  • Never fight in front of others. I've seen a lot of my friends' parents bicker in public and in front of their children. If my parents ever had beef with each other, we would have never known. BUT don't get me wrong - fighting is healthy and normal, just be sure to do it behind closed doors.
  • Surprise each other! When you are constantly buying material things for each other, it can become routine - presents are no longer a surprise, they are an expectation. Be sure to mix it up and surprise each other with non-materialistic things. 
  • Communication. Don't keep things bottled up inside, talk them out. I know it can be challenging to bring sensitive things up, but if you don't talk them out they could add up and lead to a full-on melt down.
  • Explore your fantasies! It is OK to explore your deepest fantasy - it is a great way to keep things spicy!
  • Always love. Sneak him or her an unexpected kiss from time to time. Leave sporadic love notes laying around the house or in an unexpected place. Send "Just Because" flowers. Love is always best when your significant other doesn't expect it - you can never overdo your love for one another! 
"So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s gonna be really hard. We’re gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day…"

- The Notebook


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